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Let your words pass through three gates…

by Marvin Schuldiner | May 14, 2025 | Conflict Quote | 0 comments

Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?” ~ Rumi

Conflict Quote – Alan Watts

by Marvin Schuldiner | Aug 2, 2019 | Conflict Quote | 0 comments

“Problems that remain persistently insoluble should always be suspected as questions asked in the wrong way.” ― Alan Watts (6 January 1915 – 16 November 1973), British philosopher

Conflict Quote — Maya Angelou

by Marvin Schuldiner | Feb 22, 2019 | Conflict Quote | 0 comments

“Each of us is so much alike, & yet at the same time we are so different, & I have a feeling that if you encountered difficulty, and I with my age encountered the same difficulty, I would respond one way, & you would respond another. Neither would be...

Conflict and Divorce Quote — Norman Cousins

by Marvin Schuldiner | Jul 17, 2017 | Conflict Quote | 0 comments

“Wisdom consists of the anticipation of consequences.” — Norman Cousins (1915 – 1990), American political journalist, author, professor, and world peace advocate. One of the goals of mediation is to anticipate consequences of the decisions the...

Conflict and Divorce Quote — Eckhart Tolle

by Marvin Schuldiner | Jul 2, 2017 | Conflict Quote | 0 comments

Whenever anything negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson within it, although you may not see it at the time. — Eckhart Tolle (b. 1948), German author and spiritualist    

Conflict and Divorce Quote — Ella Fitzgerald

by Marvin Schuldiner | Jun 19, 2017 | Conflict Quote | 0 comments

“It isn’t where you came from, it’s where you’re going that counts.” — Ella Fitzgerald (1917 – 1996), American Jazz Singer Mediation is a forward-looking process — we worry less about what happened and more about how to...
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Mediation Quick Facts:

  • A mediated divorce often costs less than 1/3rd of a litigated divorce
  • Mediation can finalize a divorce in much less time than litigation -- months versus years
  • You lose none of your rights by mediating
  • Mediation is confidential
  • Make decisions about your future for yourself
  • Parties are more satisfied with terms they agree to in mediation than terms imposed by a court
  • Agreements obtained through mediation are far less likely to end up back in court
  • Mediation is a forward-looking process (where do you go from here)
  • Mediation can be used to resolve many types of disputes, including the dissolutions of gay and lesbian (same-sex) relationships, civil unions, domestic partnerships and commercial and community disputes
  • Mediation allows you to get on with your life more quickly

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